3 tips to write the perfect wedding vows

Wedding season is approaching and the to-do list is piling up even faster than the arrival of summer. With so many things to consider; outfits, caterers, the wedding cake (oh god, cake), finding a venue and booking a wedding photographer to capture your beautiful day.

The importance of one thing that’s often overlooked is… wedding vows. There’s a tremendous amount of power in words. How do you search deep within your heart and soul, to find the perfect words to say to the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with?

Here are 3 tips to write words that are supercharged with love to make your significant other melt, like a snow cone on a sunny day.

Theme

Most people find it difficult to write their vows. Where do you begin? how do you even start to express how you feel? How about a theme. A theme can give you something to instantly focus on and then you can work around that.

Which popular 2018 wedding trends will you be following? According to Confetti, 16% of weddings, followed a rustic and woodland theme, in 2017. Coming close in second, 13% opted for a classic wedding.

The last few years have seen an enormous surge in adorkable weddings, from ceremonies with Severus Snape to dining with Daenerys Targaryen, with Game of Thrones, inspired outfits and decor. 

If you’re going for a themed wedding, it’s possible to base your vows and beautiful words around the theme to make the day even more memorable and special. For example, Game of Thrones fans might want to write something like, “When winter is coming, I promise to be the fire that melts the ice and we can rule all 7 kingdoms together.”

Make it Personal

Nobody really wants the most important person in their life to write and read out a bunch of generic words, as a declaration of their love.

If you’re planning on spending the rest of your life with someone, the likelihood is.. you’re probably going to know a great deal about them. Make the vows personal, include some of your past experiences together in there, you can even add a touch of humour to it. How are you going to spend your future together, after all, vows are the promises that you’re going to keep to one another. Are you planning to relocate? then sure, you can include that in your vows about starting your new life together in a new place and keeping each other safe.

Poetry

“I’m going to travel the world with the love of my life and when we’re standing in awe at the breathtaking views, I’ll thank the heavens for bringing me you.” – noopface

I’m an old romantic, in a modern day, that crafts sentences for a living. I like to write poetry every day because I can convey emotions with only a few words. Poetry opens up a whole world of giving meaning to a piece of writing, you can fill up entire sentences with emotion and this makes it perfect for vows. 

Modern poetry doesn’t necessarily have to follow standard poetry conventions, there’s a misconception that poetry has to rhyme (that got thrown out a long time ago.) Poetry can also be as long and as short as you like, too. In my poetry, I love to use metaphors. I often write about the universe, the moon, the sun and rest of the stars. I like to relate my lover to astronomy because I find space absolutely breathtaking and so is she. 

You can use poetry in your vows to convey that you’ll always be there to support them. That you’ll always treat them as an equal in your life and they are the stars in the sky, the sand in your hands, you’ll love and care for them, the best you can (I had to get a little poem in there). 

If you do need a little help, feel free to contact me.

by Anup Sohanta (noopface)

Anup Sohanta is a writer and author of the book, From the Universe’s Lips to My Ears. Buy it here!